4 Important Lessons For Dealing With Stress – YouTube Dictation Transcript & Vocabulary

1.one of the most embarrassing things about building up a body of work or or or spending any time really doing learning and personal development is encountering a problem and realizing that you already found a solution to that problem and implemented it in your life previously and that you've relapsed out the other side like a like a secret drug addict that's tumbled out of AA and back into using um you know you you've found the solution for not using your phone in an evening time and then you move house and and the charge is in a different place and you forgot to do it this way and before you know it the same thing that you thought you defeated 6 years ago has come back around and um yeah realizing that you have already learned the answer to a problem that you're dealing with right now is a special a really special kind of embarrassment um but this is kind of a list of four things uh that I feel like I should have tattooed on the inside of my [ __ ] eyelids all right here are some of the most important things I've realized about problems and stress number one problems are a feature of life not a bug there will never come a time when you have no problems what did you think that you would just wake up one day and you're going to cease having problems like completing a video game and leveling up to a map where there's nothing there that is never going to happen your problems will change sure but having problems is going nowhere dealing with problems is the cost of doing business as a human it's not a personal curse on you number two whatever negativity is consuming your thoughts probably won't matter in 3 months time in 3 months time you won't remember the corrosive texture of your mind or the boring repetitive things that you thought or maybe even what you were worried about but all of that time that you spent worrying will have still passed so you are sacrificing your joy and presence in the moment for a problem which you won't even be able to recall in the future so immortality is literally the only life where such flippency with the days that you're alive for is acceptable number three learning comes from the edges change is uncomfortable and it rarely happens without a lot of stress and many of the periods of radical and important change in your life happened because of the severe challenges that you faced would you pay the price back then for the insights and developments that you have now if so have faith that whatever stresses that you're facing right now will lead to a greater version of you in the future the challenge that you're facing is a gift and leaning into the discomfort as if you invited it through the door saying "Thank you for the opportunity to learn and reflect because it's making you better." Anti-fragility is alive and well every single time that we overcome these obstacles number four stop taking things so seriously no one is getting out of this game alive literally in three generations no one will even remember your name and if that doesn't give you liberation to just drop your [ __ ] problems and find some joy I don't know what will life is inherently ridiculous and guaranteed to end sooner or later so you might as well enjoy the ride and I think that that series of insights problems are a feature of life not a bug whatever negativity is consuming your thoughts probably won't matter in 3 months time learning comes from the edges and stop taking things so seriously to me is reassuring um it makes me feel less pressure for getting things perfectly right if people aren't going to really remember any of the things that I do and I'm not probably going to remember them either what does it matter if it's perfect what does it matter if I I should just enjoy it i should just have fun uh the learning comes from the edges is so great because you think well I want I want things to be smooth i don't want to face these these challenges i don't want to be in this difficulty i wish that I didn't have this problem i wish that this stress wasn't here you go okay looking back did any of the development that you care about come from a period where you didn't have problems exactly the same as this completely akin to whatever it is that you're going through go well you know it was the most rapid change I actually had in my life and in retrospect I'm really really glad for the way that I alchemized this problem into something that was beautiful you go okay so is there any of that energy that you can take from the past and bring to the present and say I'm I know that I'm going through it and I know that it sucks and I know that trying to be pathy and reframing the present moment that is total ass into oh well you know in the future I'll be great like yes that sucks but just that tiny little bit of insight that this challenge that you're going through is a gift to your future self it is something that in future you will look back on with so much pride and and and glory this odd sort of very normal version of glory you didn't win a battle you didn't you didn't complete a war you didn't you know conquer some new land but you overcame you conquered a part of yourself you conquered a challenge that may have ended you in one form or another it may have buried you or buried somebody else buried a past version of you that wouldn't have been able to deal with it and if your negativity that you're thinking about now doesn't matter in 3 months time you can't recall it why waste the moments that you've got this sort of precious life this brief sliver of existence in between two eternities of nothing and problems are a feature of life not a bug they are just going to continue coming you're not going to have a purpose perfectly smooth ocean where nothing gets in your way and it would be boring if you did and despite the fact that you have these things in front of you and that the challenges may even increase in size your capacity to deal with them is going to increase in kind and anti-fragility is alive and well so yeah I hope that that helps you if you're dealing with some stresses and problems this episode is brought to you by Element summer hits different when you're actually hydrated that tired foggy muscle crampy feeling most people chalk up to heat or exhaustion it might be electrolytes and plain water alone won't fix it which is why Element is such a game changer it's a zero sugar electrolyte drink mixed with sodium potassium and magnesium in the exact ratio your body needs no sugar no food dyes no artificial junk and this summer they've dropped something new lemonade salt it's like a lemon popsicle grew up got its life together and started supporting your adrenal system and your hydration and best of all there's a no questions asked refund policy so you can buy it try it for as long as you want and if you don't like it they'll give you your money back and you don't even need to return the box that's how confident they are that you'll love it plus they offer free shipping in the US right now you can get a free sample pack of all eight flavors with your first box by going to the link in the description below or heading to drinklnt.com/modernwisdom that's drinklmnt.com/modern wisdom would you look at that clip is already over but if you want more don't be sad the full episode is available right here [Music]