If you're ambitious but lazy, please watch this... – YouTube Dictation Transcript & Vocabulary

1.do you feel like you're living life on a beat scrolling social media stuck in bad habits and never hitting your goals well 10 years ago I was making $55,000 a year completely overwhelmed and stuck today I've co-founded a multi-million dollar business and truly live the life that I once dreamed of so if you're ready to cut off the old version of yourself and build the life that you've been dreaming of here's exactly where to start decision decision decision the first and most important step to getting unstuck is to understand that the old version of you doesn't exist exist anymore unless you choose to stay stuck you have to cut off the person that you are right now to become the person that you want to be so how do you actually do this you see I love to look up the derivation of words and the derivation of the word decision is to cut off which means you're no longer the person that you were yesterday if you have made a decision to change that person doesn't exist imagine if your car got stolen the next day you couldn't wake up be able to use your old vehicle in order to get to where you're trying to go you'd have to come up with some different solution you'd have to take a bike you'd have to Uber maybe you're walking you no longer have your car as your option to travel now think about this as a decision for you to change your life if you're going to become a person who works out every single day or a person who is a badass at sales or somebody who reads books and is very well- read and articulate all of a sudden if you decide to be that person you are no longer the person that doesn't do those things that person doesn't exist any longer so you have to to start making decisions as if you are that new person because guess what you are all because you made the decision now once you've made the decision let's make your environment easier so if you know that you doom scroll on Tik Tok set a policy make it so that moving forward you have your screen time locked on your phone you cannot scroll on Tik Tok for longer than 5 minutes when you make subtle changes like this to actually change your environment you're doubling down on the decision for you not to be the old version of yourself so your environment matters and the choices that you need to make in order to get there really matter and guess what they can be small little tweaks being a whole different version of you doesn't mean that everything in your life changes but the things that matter that you need to make progress on have to happen today and that decision has to be now my second step to getting unstuck is to ruin myself with disappointment in me disappointment is the wakeup call that you have been avoiding do not listen to all of those nice memes and those fun Tik toks that make you feel like you should accept yourself and be okay with yourself the way that you are if you're disappointed because you know that you have more in you you know that you could impact more people you know you have this great potential and instead you're wasting it be freaking disappointed you shouldn't feel good about yourself why would you feel good about yourself you're not living into what is possible for you once you know that you're unhappy with the way that your life looks you can make that change but don't Sugar Code it don't tell yourself lies that you should just love yourself the way that you are and give yourself a big hug don't listen to that be disappointed accept the disappointment and take action my parents used to drag me to a dinner every single year with a family friend and this family friend was very well educated very well read and Incredibly successful but I hated going to the dinner because he made me feel bad about myself the amount of news that he would read every single day would remind me that instead of reading the news I was watching television the way that he would articulate questions and his opinions would make me feel uncomfortable because I realized I didn't have an opinion because I didn't even know what the freak he was talking about he was so involved in politics and what was happening in the world and I realized I don't know the things that I could know and that I really feel like I should know and should be part of those conversations so after many years of dinners I finally decided to stop lying to myself and take action what did I do I ordered the economist I ordered the Wall Street Journal to show up to my house every single day and I became interested in the news I became interested in politics so that when I showed up to dinner the next year I would actually have opinions you see I didn't lie to myself saying that those things aren't important they were important that brings us to step three which is to decide what you want your life to look like you cannot create the life that you want without knowing what you want if I'm totally honest I entirely gave up on my goals for about 3 years I became introverted I just decided to be stuck in life because I felt really insecure to be honest and I was not confident and I was so terrified of what people thought of me that I just didn't want to try and I'll never forget flying to this comp conference and I had said no to speaking at this conference because I was scared and I didn't feel confident but then I was sitting there in the audience realizing I'm here I could be participating I could be contributing but instead my fear of public speaking my fear of being seen my fear of maybe people judging me or criticizing me is going to keep me on the sidelines and from that moment forward I was like I'm not going to be this person I refus to be the person that doesn't have the life that they want and so from there I took accountability and said what do I want my life to look like and I wrote down all of my goals what do I want personally what do I want my fitness goals to be what do I want my family goals to be what kind of friends do I want to have professionally what type of mentors do I want to bring in what are the opportunities that I'd like to create and financially how much money do I want to make what do I want to contribute to how could I make a financial impact on a charity that really matters to me because if I'm not confident in myself today and I don't feel like I can create the life that I want I'm never going to create the impact that I could potentially make and I am put on this planet in order to live into my potential and I think that you are too so if you haven't done this already I would pause this video and I would take out a piece of paper or maybe open up your notes app and I would write down your personal professional and financial 5year goals this will give you a picture of who you want to be in the future so that you can decide to be that person today step four is the most important thing you can do because you have to know for sure that you moving forward are you making progress daily that is how you get out of the rut of having this dream life but actually feeling like you're making incremental progress you're seeing wins you're making a change one of my successful habits around this is to plan my day the night before I do not leave my office I do not leave my place of work or go to bed without having a full breakdown of my calendar and where I'm spending my time the next day make the plan the night before so when I'm going through my calendar I'm looking at what appointments do I have what books am I reading what podcasts do I need to listen to How do I spring in little pieces of future Natalie and make those deposits today so that I can actually get those opportunities in the future because I'm well read on these things because I'm in the know on what's happening in the spaces that I'm interested in going into the progress you choose to make every single day is what changes things it is not these big steps it is the tiny incremental steps that you make every single day that change the trajectory of your life to create the life that you've always wanted and my hack for this is to actually graph the things that are the most important to me because if I can see on a graph that I'm getting more hours of sleep every single night that I am working out consistently and that my muscle mass is increasing or if I can see that I'm actually making more money month over month all of a sudden I feel better about the growth because I can see it moving up but if you aren't graphing and you aren't paying attention to those movements every day you're going to feel like you're not getting any closer and you're going to go back into your rut so measuring the handful of things that matter to you changes everything step five is one of my favorites and I don't hear people talking about this wherever you're currently spending your time stop spending your time there if you're in a rut the easiest way to get unstuck in your life is to get out of your house your environment dictates the way that you feel so you're watching a video right now about how to get unstuck if you're feeling stuck that means that you shouldn't stay in the environment where you are stuck your environment can be the type of social media that you interact with your environment can be the friends that you hang out with the information that you're reading get out of your house get out out of those places where you feel stuck and do that immediately if you're watching this in a place where you don't feel great leave the place that you're currently in and getting out of your house is one of the most effective things when you get out of your house it means that you have to be around other people back when I was in college and I would really feel caved in I would do my homework in my bed I felt like I was just grinding and that there was no end in sight my life was always going to suck I would go and study at a Starbucks and later on I learned that the best place to study was actually a hotel lobby because you were just in a different environment it was a different Groove I just felt better about myself I put on a different outfit I made my makeup a little bit nicer and I felt like I was in a place like the places that I wanted to be in the future instead of physically being in the place where I currently feel stuck so think of ways that you could change your environment if you currently study at your house could you study in a library if you currently work in a space with a cooworker that you can't stand could you ask your manager to move there are creative ways to change your environment and your environment is everything step six is to realize realize that entertainment disguised is education is why you're not making progress if you watch a bunch of these videos and you never do anything after them you have just substituted traditional entertainment via Tik Tok or Netflix with education that you're using as entertainment and I am a huge culprit of this I will never forget when I needed some motivation it was back when I was in high school I had to study for this big AP exam I was going to watch this movie about this inspirational story story of this woman who had this incredible gymnastics career in my mind I was thinking I was being productive or I was learning something learning how to overcome and how to have grit really I was just being educated back in the day I didn't have YouTube but today I see people doing this constantly where they will just binge watch all of these videos on how to launch an effective marketing campaign how to grow on social media how to make more money and they feel better because instead of just watching mindless reality television at least they're learning something but they're not pairing the learning of something with the doing of something this can lead to you feeling like you're making progress when really you're not so here's my rule of THB whenever I'm watching reading or listening to something I have to actually do something immediately afterwards I can't just go to the next video to the next podcast find the next Guru you will not have a better life you will not get unstuck from your rut if you just go to Natalie's next video although you should go to my next video but that's not going to really help you and I'm here to actually help you so what can you do right now that would make a change if I was you I would take my laptop or I would take my phone and I would get out of my house and I would go set up shop in a coffee shop or in some awesome Swanky hotel lobby that is how you implement and you make a change so that you're actually making progress instead of just being edutain next up is number seven which is to separate yourself from people who don't support you you can take a break from people holding you back and it doesn't have to be a breakup this is a lesson that my mom taught me she would tell me about the boyfriends that she would break up with but they didn't know that she broke up with them and I was like Mom how did you do this she said I would just create slow and subtle distance instead of having this big fight that created all this emotion I would subtly become more and more busy to the point where it just didn't make sense for us to be together any longer because I already had this new life with things that I was passionate about and they were still doing what they were doing before we didn't have some massive breakup but it was obvious to both parties that there was no longer alignment this is the best way to create separation from your friends now here's the deal with this don't make other people wrong don't have some big emotional blowup just separate yourself and start being so busy working on yourself doing things that are creating the life that you want that you no longer have the time that you used to have if you have friends who you like to party with and go out with on Friday Saturday and Sunday nights just have other things to do that you can't move whatever it is that you're trying to create make time to do those things in the time that used to spend with people who aren't helping you get closer to your goals this is where I go back to looking at my calendar and I cancel anything that is is not helping me get out of the rut that I'm in there is no party that you can go to there is no lunch that you can go to there is no coffee that you can go to with your friend that is going to make you feel better about yourself again it's not to make them bad and it's not to make them wrong it's just to say I no longer have time to talk about my current life because I have to go do things and spend time building a new version of my life and I can't live my old life while building the new version of my life that brings us to our final step in getting unstuck which is Step number eight just to say no you have to say no to anything that doesn't align with your goals I used to make up errands that I had to run instead of spending Saturday actually learning a new skill and investing in myself to make progress I would come up with this list of all of these things that I had to do I have to go get my nails done I have to go to Target I have to eat lunch I just created all of these things that I had to do when really I didn't have to do any of them so sometimes saying no isn't saying no to somebody else it's actually saying no to the habits and the routines and the things that you tell yourself you have to do but they're really distractions just taking you away from the things that you actually have to do if you're not making progress on the real things that you need to do you have to re-evaluate the things that you have to do and start saying no to yourself if you're ready to take this even further watch my video on how to create your dream life and start making it a reality